Remember my rant about “like” as a dialog tag?
The following is not an example of a dialog tag and should never be used in writing (And I wish it was never used. Period!):
“She was like, ‘why am I here?’ and I’m like “you’re the bridesmaid. You have to help pick out the dress.’ And she’s like, ‘It’s your wedding. Pick what you want.’ and I’m like, ‘It’s your dress. I want your input.’ And she’s like, “Girl, it’s not as if I’ll ever wear it again. I have, like, a dozen bridesmaids’ dresses hanging in my closet now that I wore one time.’”
Yuck! I definitely don’t like reading this passage of dialog!
My advice works if you’re writing formal fiction or a business document, but what about chick lit? (Or any contemporary fiction aimed at the younger adult population?) Well, my friend, my advice is out the window.
In fiction writing, you write what works. Stream of consciousness, first person, bad grammar, popular slang, whatever, as long as you do so intentionally.
The Grammar Cop may give you a warning, but she won’t cite you for a grammar infraction if said infraction fits the voice of your character or story.
However, if you want to write formal and proper dialog, please review my post from two years ago about dialog tags.
Recent posts have been about misused and misunderstood words, inspired by the American Heritage Dictionaries* editors.Here’s another to add to your vocabulary: reticent and reluctant.
Are reticent and reluctant synonyms? Well…yes and no. Remember my rant about decimate? The term that technically refers to removing one/tenth of a given population has evolved in usage as a synonym for annihilate. Usage has confused the word reticent, too.
Reticent people are reserved, especially among strangers. They may be reluctant to talk about themselves, but that doesn’t make them reluctant in all things.
So don’t apply the adjective reticent when you mean reluctant. I am not reticent, but I’m reluctant to gamble large amounts of money in a casino.
I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention remiss, another word often confused with reluctant. Remiss means negligent or careless. If you’re remiss in your job duties, it may be because you’re reluctant to perform the work, but the two words aren’t synonymous.
*Houghton Mifflin Books, 2004:100 words almost everyone confuses & misuses
Here is another word choice dilemma for you: Flammable and Inflammable. If you look up definitions for the words, they read the same: Easily ignited and combustible. Inflammable (or inflame), while correct, is confusing because of the prefix “in.” Some words are made negative with the “in” prefix (Inert, inglorious, inconceivable). Inflammable, however, means flammable. So which is correct?
While inflammable is a word, Grammar Cop strongly suggests you use flammable. For safety reasons, you don’t want anyone mistaking inflammable for un–flammable.
If you’re one of the millions of viewers who watch BIG BANG THEORY, you’ve been treated to Sheldon Cooper’s numerous grammar lectures. One of my favorites is about nauseous versus nauseated. He says people often say they’re nauseous when they mean they’re nauseated.
I have a similar pet peeve with incredible versus incredulous. Do you use incredulous correctly?
Wrong: She felt incredulous guilt for her father’s death.
Correct: She felt incredible guilt for her father’s death.
Both are adjectives. Incredible means implausible or extraordinary. Incredulous means disbelieving or skeptical. A trick that helps me is substituting the synonym skeptical. If the synonym makes no sense, I’ve used incredulous incorrectly. (e.g. Skeptical grammar cop is nauseated)
Wrong: That news story is simply incredulous.(You wouldn’t write That news story is simply skeptical.)
Correct: He read the news story, incredulous that anyone would believe such nonsense.
The bottom line: Use incredulous sparingly and never when you should use incredible.
Bonus: If you don’t watch BIG BANG THEORY, nauseated means you feel as if you might vomit. Nauseous means to induce nausea. Again, nauseous is seldom used and rarely used correctly. Just remember if you feel icky, you’re nauseated. If your body odor makes those around you feel icky, you’re nauseous. ;-)
Re-posting for the author who asked about awhile and a while.
Originally posted on Cheryl Norman - Grammar Cop:
Do compound words confound you? For instance, when do you use everyday and when is it every day? Or the one I struggle with most–awhile. Or is it a while? As usual, the answer is: It depends.
Awhile is an adverb meaning a short period of time. It should be used with a verb.
She stopped working awhile and had a cup of tea.
A while (two words) can mean any length of time and acts as a noun.
She stopped working for a while and had a cup of tea.
Unfortunately, you’ll see awhile misused in the press. Ignorance? To save print space? Who knows.
Words like everyday or anytime are used as adjectives.
Red wine vinegar is her everyday vinegar.
Words like Every day and any day are two words when used as adverbs.
She uses red wine vinegar every day.
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It’s summer, and that means thunderstorms. A common spelling/grammar mistake I see is the use of the word lightening. Let’s clear up the confusion.
Lightening means to add light or to dilute the tint of a color.
She tried lightening her hair, but it turned an odd shade of red.
Lightning is an atmospheric phenomena typically seen during thunderstorms.
Ben Franklin attracted lightning with a metal key attached to a kite.
Remember, if it’s in the sky, it’s spelled without the e.
In case you didn’t know, today is the Sunday in June we honor the fathers in our lives. You may be tempted to call it “Fathers’ Day” or “Fathers Day” to pluralize it. However, the official (and Grammar Cop-accepted) holiday is called Father’s Day.
If you honor more than one father or dad, remember to use the correct plural form, fathers or dads. There is no apostrophe!
Happy Father’s Day to all you dads.